To update you on the Great Move (sometimes I have referred to it as the “Big Move”…I haven’t decided which I like better so I am using both)….anyway the house has been on the market for three weeks. Our realtor says all the feedback from our visitors has been positive. Not a negative response from anyone and, so far, not an offer from anyone either. Patience, patience.
Rosemarie and I do not like this phase of the transition. The house has to be ready to show on a moment’s notice. All our “clutter” has been stowed away in drawers and closets. These are the things you use all the time and want at arm’s reach. But when it comes to showing your house for sale, they represent clutter that needs to be “gone” when someone comes to inspect your goods.
This “inspection” part is a pain too. We have to leave, including Bill the Dog. Sometimes we run an errand. Sometimes we go to the park up the street and watch the grass grow. Sometimes we park at the end of our street and just observe. There we sit like two detectives on stakeout. Some people go in and out of our house in five minutes or less. Others may take up to a half-hour inside, then yak with the realtor outside for another half-hour. There is something unnerving about sitting down the street from your house while complete strangers are busy going through it. I will be happy when we finally have a deal.
“Unnerving”–there’s an emotion that doesn’t come around often, thank goodness. As I sat in the car the other night I got thinking about emotions. Humans are not the only animal that show emotion. Dogs do it all the time. I’m not sure, however, if you can tell if a snake is happy or sad. It may depend on how fast his home sells.
To kill some more time I started listing all the emotions we humans are capable of exhibiting. I am sure I missed some. Many are the same, others supplemental, still others totally opposite. Happy or sad; hysterical or calm; hyper or sedate; eager or suppressed; positive or depressed; in love or out; high or low; proud or ashamed; bragging or embarrassed; angry or joyful; secure or threatened; shy or outgoing; and so it goes. You can add more. But these are states of mind we experience at one time or another and they all exhibit an emotion that few of us can hide. True, there are times when we discover those people we think are the happiest, are really among the most troubled…Robin Williams comes to mind.
There is one emotion I was feeling the other night while Rosemarie and I sat in the car waiting for a couple to complete their tour of our house. It was the emotion of disappointment. I felt disappointed that we hadn’t lucked out and sold the house right away. After all, we are about 75% packed up and ready to move and there are one or two places available right now that we would buy. But beyond the house, I think disappointment is the most impacting emotion, especially when it is disappointment you may have in other people…people who let you down, people who steal and cheat or those desperate people who work for robo-call companies. Anger you can usually get over. Happiness can be fleeting or elusive altogether. There is a necessary balance one needs to achieve when it comes to handling the full range of emotions, at least handling them well and not letting any singular one drive you batty. But disappointment, I find, is a lasting and challenging emotion. It’s chopped full of ingredients like guilt, misgivings, regrets, self-doubts, second guessing, sometimes a little anger and a bunch of should’ve/could’ve/would’ve’s.
Now, I am not manic about my collection of emotions. I keep them neatly stacked in orderly fashion on a shelf in the back room of my mind. I know where they are and I can easily lay my hands on any of them at any given moment. They lie dormant most of the time, but if a situation or conversation sets off a spark, well, I will usually conjure up a past experience and relive it for a moment more. It’s hard not to. That’s why I think emotions are the king of human personality…they carry so much weight and never say die. It’s all that baggage they say everyone lugs around with them as they go through life. Most of it doesn’t fit in the overhead.
Funny, isn’t it? …the mountains of thoughts you ponder while waiting down the street…waiting for your house to sell.